Johnny’s sister mentioned something to me this week about the world moving on when we are still sad and still hurting.
There is a tendency to stop and just sit down, like we did in the grass by his grave. To linger in the moment, as my mind seems to return to the night it happened. To stop buying food. To stop eating. To stop working or reading or updating social media.
What do you do when the world is moving on, when all that stopped for John’s death has recommenced its course? How can you, when you are still grieving the loss of a most beloved soul?
It’s a strange word, as if the aftermath of a sudden death could ever come to recovery. The word “still“ implies that we will eventually be okay. Can I agree with this? Some say it will take a year, others claim two years. But since the sudden death of John, I feel we shall never be the same on this side of heaven.
The world has moved on. It has already changed since Johnny left. The grocery stores are decorated for the holidays, the wind has unclothed the warm-colored trees, and darkness sets in before the day is over.
The world is moving on, and people are talking of winter decor and seasonal Starbucks drinks. I listen, trying to enjoy this time of year like I always do. But then I look down at my chest and see a fresh wound still bleeding, still hurting. When my thoughts return to that night my heart aches. I search for something to ease the pain.
I cry. I don’t cry. I hold it in. I don’t hold it in. But still, there is no remedy for death.
Grief is a ruthless enemy. It strikes when you least expect it. It hits you while you’re down. It comes from behind and descends like a cold November rain.
I’m realizing that I cannot just move on as the world has. I cannot come out of this, unchanged. And one thing in particular that must change is time with God. If anything, death should draw me nearer to Him. It surely has. But still, I need something to combat this ruthless enemy. A lamp to guide my steps as the world is moving on.
Psalm 119:9 “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.”